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The Silent Killer of Everything You're Building
You're being destroyed by something you can't see.
It's not your competition. Not the economy. Not your talent or skills.
It's your priorities.
Or more specifically, your wrong priorities.
This silent killer works slowly at first. You neglect one relationship. You compromise one value. You make a series of small exceptions that seem harmless on their own.
Then one day you look up and wonder how you built a life or business you don't recognize – one that makes you successful by measures you don't actually care about.
Wrong priorities don't just waste your time. They steal your life.
And most people never realize it until it's too late.
The Deception of "Reasonable" Priorities
So how do you end up with priorities that sabotage what you really want?
Your priorities aren't what you say they are.
They're not the values framed on your wall or listed in your journal.
Your actual priorities are revealed by one thing only: how you spend your time and energy when forced to choose between competing options.
This is where the trouble begins.
Because the most dangerous priorities aren't the obviously bad ones. They're the "reasonable" ones that nobody would question.
"I need to focus on revenue right now." "I'll spend time with family after this launch." "I just need to get through this busy season." "I can't afford to turn down this opportunity."
These sound sensible. Responsible, even. The problem isn't that they're wrong in isolation – it's that they create a pattern of choices that slowly builds a life you never intended.
This pattern played out with Steve Jobs during his first tenure at Apple. His stated priority was creating insanely great products. But his operational priorities shifted toward winning internal battles, outshining competitors, and controlling every aspect of development.
The resulting behavior alienated team members, slowed innovation, and eventually led to his ouster from the company he founded.
Only after his exile did Jobs reset his priorities. When he returned to Apple years later, he famously said: "People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas."
This clarity about saying no – about filtering decisions through strict priorities – transformed Apple from a struggling company into the most valuable business in the world.
The most dangerous priorities aren't the ones you consciously choose – they're the ones you unconsciously accept.
And they will wreck everything you truly care about if you don't recognize and correct them.
The Cost of Priority Confusion
But what exactly happens when your priorities are wrong? The damage isn't just theoretical.
Your priorities create your reality.
Not immediately, but inevitably.
This works in both directions. Right priorities consistently applied create a life of satisfaction and impact. Wrong priorities consistently applied create a life of hollow achievement and regret.
Let me show you how this plays out across different domains:
In Business:
Wrong priority: Revenue over reputation Result: Short-term growth, long-term failure when trust erodes
Wrong priority: Growth over culture Result: Bigger company that attracts worse people and creates more problems
Wrong priority: Busy over productive Result: Exhaustion without meaningful progress on what actually moves the needle
In Relationships:
Wrong priority: Being right over being connected Result: Winning arguments but losing intimacy
Wrong priority: Work emergencies over personal presence Result: Financial provision without emotional connection
Wrong priority: Conflict avoidance over honest communication Result: Peace today, explosion tomorrow
In Personal Development:
Wrong priority: Consumption over creation Result: Knowledge without application
Wrong priority: Others' expectations over personal values Result: External validation without internal fulfillment
Wrong priority: Urgency over importance Result: Perpetual firefighting without building what matters
The pattern is clear: When your actual priorities don't match your stated values, your life follows your priorities, not your values.
The gap between them is exactly where your regret will grow.
The Priority Audit That Changes Everything
So how do you know what your real priorities are? And how do you fix them if they're wrong?
Your current results perfectly reflect your current priorities.
Not your intentions. Not your values. Not what you say matters.
Your actual, day-to-day, decision-by-decision priorities.
This means that continuing with the same priority system will create more of the same results. If you want different outcomes, you need different priorities.
Here's a simple but powerful five-minute audit that will reveal more than most people learn in years of "soul searching":
1. Look at your calendar for the last month
Don't focus on what you planned to do. Look at what you actually did. Where did your time go? What appointments did you keep? What did you reschedule or cancel?
2. Check your bank and credit card statements
Again, not your budget or intentions. Where did your money actually go? What did you fund first? What got the leftovers?
3. Review your phone screen time
What apps dominated your attention? What was the first thing you checked each morning and the last thing at night?
4. Examine your emotional reactions
What triggered strong emotions? What did you defend when challenged? What did you make excuses for?
Now compare this reality with your stated priorities. The gap between them isn't just interesting – it's the exact source of your current frustration and future regret.
Warren Buffett understood this when he taught his pilot, Mike Flint, a simple priority exercise. When Flint asked about how to achieve his career goals, Buffett told him to:
Write down his top 25 career goals
Circle the 5 most important ones
Put the remaining 20 on an "avoid at all costs" list
When Flint said he would focus on the top 5 while working on the other 20 occasionally, Buffett stopped him cold: "No. You've got it wrong. Everything you didn't circle just became your 'avoid at all costs' list. No matter what, these things get no attention until you've succeeded with your top 5."
This ruthless priority filter is why Buffett, despite thousands of investment opportunities, has concentrated his attention on a remarkably small number of businesses – and built one of history's greatest fortunes in the process.
This audit doesn't just reveal your true priorities – it shows you exactly where change needs to happen.
The Priority Filter That Saves Everything
Knowing your true priorities is just the start. The real power comes from using them to make decisions.
Most people treat priorities as a general guideline rather than a rigid decision-making framework. This renders them nearly useless.
Priorities only work when they help you say no to good options that don't match what matters most.
Here's how to build this filter:
1. Define your actual top 3 priorities in order
Not what should matter. Not what others think should matter. What truly matters most to you.
This requires brutal honesty. For most people, these will be something like:
Family/key relationships
Health (physical, mental, spiritual)
Meaningful work/contribution
But your list might differ. The key is honesty, not conformity.
2. Create specific boundary conditions for each
Vague priorities create vague results. Define exactly what honoring each priority looks like in practice:
Example for family priority:
No phone during dinner
Weekends reserved for family activities
Never miss important events for work
Regular date nights
3. Pre-commit to priority-based decisions
The time to decide how you'll handle priority conflicts is before they arise, not during the emotional moment of choice.
Create if-then statements that guide future decisions:
"If a work emergency conflicts with family time, I will..."
"If a financial opportunity requires compromising my health, I will..."
"If growth requires cutting corners on quality, I will..."
4. Install guardrails that enforce priorities
Your willpower will fail. Create systems that enforce your priorities automatically:
Calendar blocks that protect priority activities
Automatic savings/investments that fund priority goals
Communication protocols that preserve priority relationships
Technology limits that prevent priority distractions
When Sam Walton was building Walmart, he faced a crucial priority decision after opening his first few stores. Competitors were expanding rapidly in larger markets, while Walton was focused on small rural towns.
Advisors urged him to shift priorities to compete in bigger cities. But Walton's priority filter was clear: operational efficiency, everyday low prices, and disciplined expansion. Cities would have meant higher costs and stronger competition – violating his core priorities.
By filtering this decision through his priorities, Walton rejected the seemingly good opportunity of urban expansion. Instead, he doubled down on rural markets where his model worked best. This priority-based decision built the foundation for what would become the world's largest retailer.
The priority filter didn't just save him from a bad decision – it created space for a better one.
The Courageous Reset We All Need
But what if your entire priority system needs a reset? Most people never even consider this possibility.
Let me be honest: You probably didn't choose your priorities. You inherited them.
They came from your parents, your industry, your friends, and many other influences you've never really questioned.
This isn't your fault. But continuing with unexamined priorities is your responsibility.
The most important thing you can do is ask yourself: "Am I prioritizing what actually matters to me, or what I've been taught should matter?"
This question terrifies most people because answering it honestly might require significant life changes.
It's easier to maintain wrong priorities than face the implications of changing them.
But consider the alternative: continuing to build a life or business that achieves goals you don't actually care about, while neglecting what you'll ultimately wish you had prioritized.
I've never met someone who regretted reprioritizing their life around what truly matters. I've met countless people who regretted waiting too long to do so.
Your Next 24 Hours
All this sounds good in theory. But how do you actually start making changes?
Changing your priorities without changing your behavior doesn't help. It's just better-worded confusion.
So here's what to do in the next 24 hours:
Complete the priority audit (calendar, spending, attention, emotions)
Honestly list your current operational priorities based on this audit
Write your actual top 3 priorities in order
Identify one decision in the next week where these priorities will be tested
Pre-decide how you'll handle that situation based on your true priorities
This won't instantly transform your life. But it will begin shifting your decision patterns toward what actually matters.
Remember: A thing that will wreck you is wrong priorities. It will destroy your work, your business, and even your marriage.
Know what your priorities are, hold to them with an iron fist, and run every single decision and option through these priorities like a filter.
The life you build will thank you.
Thank you for reading.
– Scott